Monday, August 20, 2007

Joey's Counselor Speaks

"My name is E_______ and I just wanted to tell you how much you inspire me, as this seems like a time in your life where you may need a little more encouragement.

I first learned of your family from your son Joey when he was doing time at _______ . I was temporarily working as a counselor there and he was on another temporary counselors caseload... we shared an office. He told us about your family and told us that you blogged, and we looked you up. Ever since, I have found that I can't go a week without reading your blog.. always wondering how your family is doing and keeping you and your family in my prayers.

You are an incredible woman. You inspire this recent UGA Social Work grad to do more with her life than sit at a desk and shuffle papers for the rest of her life. Your unwillingness to give up on your children amazes me... I only wish I had half as much determination as you. Especially having some actual insight into what you deal with on a daily basis. I witnessed first hand Joey's irrational and manipulative behavior. I can't imagine what it was like having someone like him, and much worse, in your home. The fact that you are still determined to make a difference and help these children is wonderful and inspiring. And the fact that you have so many successful children is a testament to you and all the hard work you do every day. "

Reprinted here with permission. She'd emailed me this weekend, we've never met yet I have another son not demonstrating the murderous behaviors there (in a psych hospital) that he did here so I'm looking, once again, like an hysterical mama and this calm young man, my Jose, just can't figure out what's wrong with me.

His younger siblings, defiant and oppositional at best, are silly and carefree now with Jose not with us. He is angry with his other two sibs who have bonded with me, he feels they are traitors and that they don't care about him, yet all four deeply love him.


HopewellMomSchool said...

I, too, thank you for your blog. My son had his first hospitalization for violent behavior this summer. In and out in 3 days--he "played the game." My own sibling turned against me. It's all my fault of course. I know better, but had to live thru it. Your honestly, determination and tenacity help me keep loving, keep praying, keep taking time to play battleship and throw a football, keep spending money for gas, going to the movies, going to Church and staying up to pick everyone up after a high school football game. Thank you, thank you thank you for your example of grace under fire.

Kevin said...


Thanks for your wonderful hospitality in the midst of all that you were and are dealing with. I had a great time at the game, and Lauren is bragging with Bodie pride about the "scores" she got at the yard sales.

And thanks to all your devoted readers for letting Cindy take a short break and spend some time with company.

Anonymous said...

With the words of a wise woman, "DUH" you inspire us all daily. You are what we need to see to remind us what we were thinking to begin our journey into adoption b/c some mornings it would be easier to stay in bed. I know you are having a really hard time right now, we are all here for.

Rachel D.

FAScinated said...

I think you can see from all the comments and emails you've received just how important you are to those of us living in your enormous shadow. I still can't figure out how such a tiny woman can have such a HUGE presence in this world!

I understand the frustration of looking crazy and people not understanding- but you and your blog are what is eventually going to help bring about the understanding that we need.

We were once all little voices, isolated and barely audible in this noisy world...we are now, through our blogs, a collective shout that is going to be hard to ignore.

Keep hollerin' girl. ~Kari