Monday, August 20, 2007

Joey's Counselor Speaks

"My name is E_______ and I just wanted to tell you how much you inspire me, as this seems like a time in your life where you may need a little more encouragement.

I first learned of your family from your son Joey when he was doing time at _______ . I was temporarily working as a counselor there and he was on another temporary counselors caseload... we shared an office. He told us about your family and told us that you blogged, and we looked you up. Ever since, I have found that I can't go a week without reading your blog.. always wondering how your family is doing and keeping you and your family in my prayers.

You are an incredible woman. You inspire this recent UGA Social Work grad to do more with her life than sit at a desk and shuffle papers for the rest of her life. Your unwillingness to give up on your children amazes me... I only wish I had half as much determination as you. Especially having some actual insight into what you deal with on a daily basis. I witnessed first hand Joey's irrational and manipulative behavior. I can't imagine what it was like having someone like him, and much worse, in your home. The fact that you are still determined to make a difference and help these children is wonderful and inspiring. And the fact that you have so many successful children is a testament to you and all the hard work you do every day. "

Reprinted here with permission. She'd emailed me this weekend, we've never met yet I have another son not demonstrating the murderous behaviors there (in a psych hospital) that he did here so I'm looking, once again, like an hysterical mama and this calm young man, my Jose, just can't figure out what's wrong with me.

His younger siblings, defiant and oppositional at best, are silly and carefree now with Jose not with us. He is angry with his other two sibs who have bonded with me, he feels they are traitors and that they don't care about him, yet all four deeply love him.