troubling article an 11 year old foster child earns felony charges for killing a puppy because her foster mother wouldn't take her somewhere.
I can perfectly visualize that happening, as my family has been held emotionally hostage for many, many years by such extremely illogical and violently dangerous behaviors.
However, all too often, the threats of murder involved my children, not puppies, living here.
I worked and worked, sought help, resources and information, documented behaviors, stressed, cried and prayed until finally the mental health workers plus our very awesome Department of Juvenile Justice helped tremendously (based on assault charges and violated sanctions) by court-ordering mental health treatment.
I think about this often. Now that my family just lives with common misbehavior issues, common to us, but would drive regular parents to drink possibly, but now at least we feel safe.
As a human being I remain completely and dumbly stumped as to how to best help children who seemingly have no conscience and are driven strictly by their inner murderous rages. Most regular human beings cannot fathom this even being possible at young ages, but I've lived to tell about it.
Reading this other article, as I often do in my many attempts at trying to understand human behavior, I read the words: Bennett was exhibiting “concerning sexualized/perpetrating behaviors” and had profound emotional disturbances, according to court records.
I dearly hope and pray that my two good looking teenagers who are in residential will overcome everything, that there'll be no more attacks upon any other human beings, that they'll respond to the therapeutic environment, that the external controls there will be exactly what they needed, that the lack of family expectations of empathy and sharing have been removed and will therefore result in success for them.
But, right or wrong on my part, successful or not on their part, that my other dozen children are now safe speaks volumes to me. Nobody here verbally expresses their relief, except upon various occasions when they mention something like, "Man, can you imagine if we'd done this back then," indicating the response we'd have received from The One Who Must Control
Everything who'd rage and attack when the wind changed direction.
"Punish them," she'd scream when I corrected her behavior. Well, they hadn't done anything except stare wide-eyed, yet she'd insist I consequence them. Another what the heck moment that'd end in her cutting up someone's clothes, daring me to do something about it, which would only make her feel entitled to punch someone in the face. BTDT.
I have a 15 year old with mongo severe ODD, yet he cried the other day in my arms, death was the discussion at the time, he was missing Grandpa, thinking 'bout how Grandpa had spoken encouragement into all my sons personally and individually the afternoon before he lapsed into unconsciousness. My sons had each had a proper goodbye, yet their own loss issues were compounded once again - death equally the ultimate abandonment.
"Grandpa didn't wanna leave us," my son wailed and cried in my arms, wiping his nose on my shirt.
We sat and talked for an hour, he ended up feeling better, I complimented him on properly expressing his sadness rather than his former pattern of hitting his emotional twin, provoking a fist fight in which they'd both happily release their negative emotions.
"Dudes, you can't do that in the real world," I'd always explain after some larger son would help me pull them apart.